“You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.” – Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
Valentine’s Day is over so you’re probably thinking this post is a little late. It is. I debated writing this post because I by no means am an expert on the subject, I am merely a student. I have learned a lot this past year. One of the things I’ve learned about is love. Not just love of a significant other but love of everyone who enters your life. Each one is significant in their own way, be it family, friends, someone you’ve just met or those halfway across the world that you may never know.
I never really thought that much about what love meant. I had a great picture of it from my parents. I was blessed to have two parents who loved each other and loved all of us, their four rowdy kids. I didn’t have to wonder what love was because I saw what it was everyday. But this past year, I saw people around me do some really ugly things to others in the name of “love” and something didn’t sit right. When girlfriends would talk to me about this I would simply respond, “Well that’s not true love,” as if I knew what I was talking about. I didn’t but I knew that if that’s what love was, I didn’t want it. If it was selfish, hurtful and self-serving, no thanks I can live without. It really made me think about love and those I loved. Was I being selfish? No one is perfect, I understand that. I’m sure I’ve done stupid things to those I love but shouldn’t we expect more? Shouldn’t we strive for more and to love those around us better everyday? I knew what love wasn’t but did I know what it was?
So as the snow falls to the ground here in Nashvegas and I get a break from a hectic Monday after a weekend where love has been on everyone’s mind, I thought I’d put in my two cents on what love is to me.
Giving yourself fully to someone but never losing yourself
Listening and Learning about others
Always encouraging and challenging others to be the best person they can possibly be
Slow to anger and quick to forgive
Sharing your passions, fears, dreams and hopes for the future
Always extending a helping hand
Willing to say you’re wrong and I’m sorry
Delighting in others and their success
What keeps you up at night
Putting others ahead of yourself
What still gives you butterflies
Letting those around you be themselves
Never giving up
What makes you smile at the beginning of each day
It’s just a simple list. I’m thinking maybe I’ll update it as I learn more because I feel I am only at the tip of the iceberg. What would you add to the list?